Align With Love
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Do you ever feel like you’re not enough?
You’re not alone.
If you’ve been with me a little while you know my road to being happily married (for 20 years this month!) did not start out easily.
My relationship history is messy.
Over and over, I gave up my sense of self to morph into what I thought the current partner wanted me to be.
Just being me wasn’t enough.
Age 16 dated a jock – feigned extreme interest in baseball (yawn) – wore the team jersey – kept stats at every game – stopped hanging out with my girlfriends – spent every waking moment obsessed with him and… baseball.
Age 18 along comes a surfer – again ignored my friends – free time hanging out in the surf shop – smoked a lot of weed – learned all the lingo – woke up a dawn to watch him surf.
Age 23 – a grunge rocker – dyed my hair burgundy – bought Doc Martens and a bunch of flannels – got a tattoo – learned how to navigate mosh pits – lots of black eyeliner.
Age 25 – fell in love with a sailor – spent a ridiculous amount of money getting my hair back to blond – wore white pants – weekends at yacht clubs racing sailboats – even wore a respirator and sanded down the hull of his boat (absolutely miserable).
The underlying belief in all of these relationships was
If I want to be loved I need to…
– be what he wants
– do what he’s into
And under that was a core belief:
I’m not enough.
It wasn’t until I finally took the time to be single and do some deep inner work that I began to accept all the parts of myself. Then, and only then, could I actually have a relationship where I was fully met as me.
My question for you today is:
What would be different in your life if you knew you were enough just as you are?
What would change? How would you show up?
Drop me a quick line and tell me your thoughts. I’d love to hear!
Here are some of the steps I took to get from ‘not enough’ to fully being myself.
Love,
Liesel
